When ever you see someone, you automatically ask “How are you?”, we don’t generally expect a real answer, we place emphasis on certain parts of the phrase to elicit the response we expect. A general murmur of “Fine, thank you. Any you?” is what we hope to hear.
Of course, if we are trying to bring comfort, then the emphasis is on the you, and the expected response is probably “As well as can be expected” which far too often we let people get away with. With everything that is going on in the world, in peoples’ lives and with rising awareness of Mental Health and the importance of talking, we should reach out more and dig a little deeper behind the expected response. Especially if we know that something has been going on in some-one’s life.
So, Post40 bloggers asked. “How are you?” – No, really, how are you?
Well, thank you for asking, Post 40.
To answer the question honestly, depends on the day, even the time of day. At this moment in time, “Thank you. I am fine, a little stressed out about my course, but I should be OK, I am going to ring them tomorrow to discuss some stuff, I haven’t had my assignment feedback yet and it feels like ages!
I am feeling fat. I don’t seem to be able to stop eating. I think that is stress related plus we have a wedding to go to, and although I have a couple of dresses to choose from, I hate my legs. It’s such a faff. I want to be the elderly relative who doesn’t give a flying toss about what she looks like and be eccentric and wear anything, and yet…….. I don’t have the confidence to do that, because other people expect something different from me. Huge sigh, shrug of shoulders and then a big grin.
I saw my youngest the other day, it was wonderful. Until he told me he had got a tattoo. Oh, well, I think he expected me to go off on one, they know I don’t like them. But, he was sober when he got it done, it has relevance to him, and at the end of the day, its his body and his money. Wonder if it hurt?
Isn’t it a glorious day? It’s so warm after the rain we had. The gardens needed it. Oh, and the photos I took yesterday for the local fishing club? Well, they loved them. The dog training session went well, although Lucky was worn out by the end of it, she has done so well, both the trainers can see how much she has improved and they love to tell me that. I can’t always see it.
So, anyway, enough about me. How are you? No, really, how are YOU?